Complaining Ruins Your Life
- Marc Altmann
- Sep 28, 2025
- 3 min read
Complaining is not a helpful trait. Yet many people believe that by using the method of complaining, they can gain certain advantages.
In our society, there is often a certain understanding towards those who complain, as many still believe that the world is fundamentally unfair.
However, if we lead a spiritual life, we cannot share this view.
THE ROOT CAUSE OF COMPLAINING
We must ask ourselves whether we become impatient and start grumbling when we are stuck in traffic or waiting at the checkout.
Are we quick to find fault with our friends or relatives?
Do we adopt a rejecting attitude where, in truth, affection would be called for?
Many people consider it cool and modern to turn complaining into a virtue. At its root, it reflects a state of disagreement with what society presents to us.
Yet how can we truly change society for the better if we do nothing more than grumble about how bad it is?
WORKING CONDITIONS
Do we complain about our jobs, even though we should, in truth, be grateful to God for having employment at all?
Are our colleagues to blame for our bad mood? “If only everything were different, then I would feel better.”
Or there is the constant unemployment — one can complain endlessly about still not having found a job.
This is how many people think about their lives. It does not occur to them that even here, in truth, nothing can go wrong — for everything has its meaning.
Even if we do not immediately understand that meaning, we could choose to stop complaining and open ourselves to a more positive attitude towards life.
THE SOLUTION
The antidote to all complaining is gratitude. What is perfect about the situation I am currently in? Am I able to see the positive aspects of what I am experiencing?
If I am willing to be grateful for everything that is present and happening in my life, I immediately enter a state of inner peace.
From the perspective of this inner peace, I begin to perceive the world in an entirely different way.
This new perception allows me to recognise new opportunities that I could not see while trapped in a mindset of complaining.
How good it is that I can buy myself something to eat. How wonderful that I do not have to go to work and can instead take care of myself. Or how fortunate that I have a job at all — others would be glad to do the work I am doing.
Gratitude for everything that is brings forth peace, and increasingly more happiness and contentment.
GRATEFUL PEOPLE
Grateful people do not complain. They are so occupied with giving thanks for all the good in their lives that the things they might otherwise complain about hardly even register.
Through gratitude and heartfelt praise, we enter the true world of heaven. We should all strive to be as positive and grateful as possible.
Try this: in the evening, before going to bed, reflect on everything you can be grateful for. And do the same first thing in the morning.
Give thanks for the small things — and for those things you would otherwise take for granted.
For example: finding a free parking space, waking up in time for work, having a meal, or being surrounded by your family.
Do not be discouraged if you forget from time to time — but do not give up either. Stay with it until this new behaviour becomes a habit and you have fully integrated a lifestyle of gratitude into your life.
Do not be stingy with your gratitude; it will enrich your life.
Thank you very much for your interest in my work.
Kind regards,
Marc Altmann
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