Control dramas are expressions of fear.
- Marc Altmann
- Nov 27, 2025
- 3 min read
In my recent blog newsletter entries, I have written about control dramas and their transformation — patterns we as human beings live out when we are not connected to our own inner energy.
THE STRUGGLE FOR SURVIVAL
Each of the control mechanisms mentioned here is rooted in the original fear that, without connection to our parents, we would not be able to survive.
In childhood, our parents are indeed the foundation of our survival. And when, as children, we needed energy in order to feel safe, we would resort to one of the control dramas we knew would work.
TRUE POWER
With the awareness that there is a universal source of energy accessible to all of us, we no longer need to identify with our old control and survival patterns. We call this source God.
Through this source, we are able to take our lives into our own hands. We create our world from our own centre and truth. The power of our consciousness directs our attention toward what we truly hope for in life. In this way, we draw it into our experience — and learn to delight in our own creation.
TRANSFORMATION
Transforming fear-based dramas by reconnecting with our inner source of God is equivalent to vibrating on a higher, subtler level of consciousness.
When our control dramas are sufficiently illuminated, they can be transformed into positive qualities. This illumination occurs when we change our perspective and begin to view our lives from a higher vantage point. The perspective of love always leads us back to the truth of our being.
Once we arrive at the frequency of our True Self, we become capable of sustaining a life that allows for joy, hope, faith, compassion, love, and genuine enjoyment in all circumstances.
FROM LIFE
A thirty-one-year-old single mother, working as a seamstress, wants to make more of her life. She has a dream she longs to realise, and her question is: How can I become financially independent?
For quite some time, she has felt this deep desire to improve her situation. Yet so far, she has not been able to build the inner strength required to confront the recurring resistance that keeps arising within her.
During the parental analysis in the session, the following family principles — shaped by both parents — come to light:
“Sometimes you have to do things against your will.”
“You can express yourself later.”
“Be prepared for tragedies in life.”
“One lifetime is not enough to do everything.”
“If you rest, you rust.”
“Everything is fine as it is — just don’t change anything.”
WHO ARE THEY?
Her parents were hard-working people with the best of intentions, yet they felt little courage or trust in their own lives.
They worried constantly and were unable to pass on to their daughter the self-confidence she truly needed for her path.
When she tried to become financially independent and free herself from dependence on location, she began to notice that her family’s guiding principles were preventing her from fulfilling her dream.
Although she understood that it can be important to proceed with careful planning, she recognised — through the example of her parents — that excessive caution does not lead to a fulfilled life.
THE HEAVY BURDEN OF PARENTAL THEMES
She also noticed that she was especially inclined to repeat the last of these principles to herself whenever she thought about leaving her current job. In addition, she lived in a constant state of postponement — “You can express yourself later.”
In this way, her life subtly reflected the early belief systems of her parents.
STEPS OF CONSCIOUSNESS TOWARDS YOURSELF
Answer the following questions for yourself:
What was your mother afraid of? What kind of behaviour did she display as a result?
What was your father afraid of? What kind of behaviour did he display?
What are you afraid of? How do you behave? Are there similarities in your life to those of your parents?
IT COMES FULL CIRCLE
Once we have found our inner centre, we also become aware of our control dramas — and we are given the opportunity to transform our old habits into positive and empowering aspects of our lives.
In my sessions, participants learn to acknowledge their fear and transform it into love.
Thank you very much for your interest in my work.
With warm regards,
Marc Altmann
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