Control Drama – The Intimidator / Perpetrator

In the previous blog post, we explored Control Dramas in general. Here, I will begin to outline the specific types involved.

You will most certainly recognise yourself in some of these dynamics. The series of upcoming posts will build upon one another.

THE INTIMIDATOR

These individuals draw attention — and therefore energy — to themselves through volume, physical force, threats, and unpredictable outbursts of temper.

Intimidators dominate by keeping others in check through the constant threat of a hurtful remark, their anger, and, in extreme cases, explosive rage. The Intimidator is always at the centre of attention.

In their presence, you feel unsettled, intimidated and restless.

EGOCENTRISM

The behavioural range of these egocentric individuals extends from merely bossing others around, incessant talking, authoritarian conduct, inflexibility and persistent sarcasm, to the use of physical violence.

The Intimidator type is probably the most clearly cut off from the flow of universal energy. Initially, they draw people into their sphere of influence through an aura of power.

THE DYNAMICS

Each of the Control Dramas creates a specific dynamic, also referred to as a “Supplementary Drama.”

The Supplementary Drama of the Intimidator primarily manifests in the “Poor Me” dynamic — an energetically extremely passive pattern.

The Poor Me type believes they are being deprived of their energy in a frightening and overwhelming way by the Intimidator. In response, they attempt to halt this seemingly threatening flow of energy by adopting a shrinking, helpless attitude:

“Look what you’ve done to me. Don’t hurt me — I’m too weak.”

SUPPLEMENTARY DRAMA

The Poor Me attempts to induce guilt in the Intimidator in order to bring the attacks to an end.

Another possible Supplementary Drama is that of the Counter-Intimidator. This dynamic is often observed when the Poor Me behaviour proves ineffective — or, even more likely, when the other person is equally aggressive and actively fights back against the Intimidator.

If one of your parents was an Intimidator, there is a strong likelihood that the other parent was either an Intimidator as well or embodied the Poor Me dynamic.

In the next blog post, we will turn to the Interrogator.

In my sessions, I help identify the Intimidator operating in your life. Once this dynamic has been recognised, fresh new energy can be restored.

Thank you very much for your interest in my work.

Warm regards,

Marc Altmann

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